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Post by teccles on Jul 7, 2013 10:51:14 GMT -5
I hope everyone had a great 4th...mine was good in the fact that my wife my kids and I went to some friends house and ate ribs and had a great time visiting and watching the fireworks..,,and then came the next day the family reunion....that wasn't quite so fun....it consisted of my brother and his family...my sister and her family...my parents and of course my family....why I even go to these I don't know...I hate reunions....in fact I don't much like my siblings or their families...I tolerate my mother..,I get along with my dad but my mom usually ruins that...my siblings find joy in outdoing and outspending each other....I'm just the jerk that works at the factory and gets paid by the hour...got married at 18...didn't go on a mission for my church...takes care of mom and dad....didn't finish college....and a freak that carries a gun.....what a bunch of jerks and a crappy end to a good weekend...I was determined it would be better this time.....family beyond my wife and kids is overrated and just stresses me out.....sorry for the rant...but it had to go somewhere...,
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Post by rramom on Jul 7, 2013 20:57:44 GMT -5
I can understand how you feel about family reunions. That's one of the blessings that came out of both of my parents being deceased - I don't have to go to as many family gatherings. I usually can tolerate my living siblings for a few hours, but recently, there was a difference of opinion regarding my uncle's funeral. They thought my son ought to attend, rather than just dropping me off/picking me up. He didn't know my uncle, so I saw no reason to make him go to the funeral. But then, none of my siblings have any offspring (thank goodness!) so they think they know all about parenting. At the funeral & family dinner, I just ignored them, and visited with my cousins. I had a very pleasant time.
On my hubby's side, none of us get along with his sister-in-law, there's always a major blow-up, the few times we've gotten together. I've resolved I'm not going to place myself or our kids anywhere in the same place as her, unless someone is on their deathbed, or has died. Otherwise, we'll just take turns seeing my hubby's parents. Now, her husband (my husband's brother) is fine to be around, as long as his wife isn't, so the prohibition just applies to her.
When I was about 20, I came to the realization that family get-togethers were optional, not required. (I was living away from home then, supporting myself.) My brothers kept teasing me about my weight problem, and I'd had enough. I told them that if they told anymore "fat jokes" that would be the last time I came. It worked - for 30+ years, I haven't heard a fat joke. (I told them it was okay to tease me about talking too much, etc., so they still had plenty of joke material.)
Sometimes we have to suck it up for the sake of parents, etc., but neither do we need to put ourselves unnecessarily in situations that we know we're going to get hurt.
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Post by teccles on Jul 7, 2013 21:03:14 GMT -5
I went and I sucked it up and kept my mouth shut....that's why I needed to vent somewhere....that's what I always do....my mother is the queen of guilt trips and manipulation....
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